Don’t Think About Elephants!
Posted by: Laurie Cameron in A Sign of the Times, Fine Art of the Reframe, Ripped From the Headlines, Snippets and Tidbits, What If?Okay, here’s a pet peeve popping up: the No Child Left Behind Act.
It seems as though this program continues to be evaluated for its effectiveness, and all the stories I’ve read on it say it comes up way short on accomplishing its desired outcome since its inception - high standards and accountability for the learning of all children.
I LOVE the idea of finding ways to assist all of our kids to learn and grow into healthy, socially resourceful adults. What makes me crazy is that it was doomed from the start BECAUSE OF ITS TITLE.
Try this experiment: DON’T think about elephants. No, really - DON’T THINK ABOUT ELEPHANTS! What’s happening? Are you thinking about elephants? And the more you try NOT to think about elephants, are they starting to stampede through your mind?
It’s a simple brain thing - the mind doesn’t register “don’t”, “can’t”, or “not”. It just registers what comes after it. Have you ever told a child: “Do not climb on the counter!”? Where’s the next place you found that child?
The subtle, unconscious problem with NCLB is that all the mind registers is “Child Left Behind Act.” It’s totally contradictory to what we actually want for our children.
So the obvious first step to turning our good intentions into real solutions is to change the name. What if it was called the EVERY CHILD INCLUDED ACT?
Think about the energy behind these opposing titles. What’s going on in your body when you think about “NO CHILD LEFT BEHIND?” For me, my body takes a fighting stance, fist waving in the air - quite the shadow energy of fear, defensiveness, ready to attack. This is NOT where solutions live.
Now pay attention to what’s going on in your body when you think about “EVERY CHILD INCLUDED.”
My body feels an expanding energy, a sense of community, and a belief that it’s actually possible to somehow include every child. I easily shift into possibility and solution thinking - how can we include every child?
We must be much more vigilant about how we are unconsciously sabotaging the very things we want in the world by choosing the thoughts and words that contradict what we want.
This is the way you can CHOOSE LOVE TODAY - pay attention and choose your words CAREFULLY.
Tags: NCLB, No Child Left Behind Act
March 4th, 2009 at 4:09 am
I agree that our language creates our reality. I find myself making micro-corrections to my wording throughout the day: “Is that really what I mean to say? Is that really how I want to say it?”
It’s great to make a pact with a friend or friends to gently correct each other when anyone uses a phrase that is clearly contrary to what they’re trying to manifest. Our words and thoughts carry great power. We need to channel that power in the right direction.
Thanks for your inspiring post.
March 4th, 2009 at 9:46 am
Thank you Kate! I LOVE your idea for a pact that we can make with each other. It’s like enrolling mini-coaches into our lives to help us be our Best and Highest Selves. Because we can’t change what we’re not aware of. (Evolutionary Relationship Law #1!)